Excerpts from Complete Works

So you have made up your mind to renounce the world. I have sympathy
with your desire. There is nothing so high as renunciation of self.
But you must not forget that to forgo your own favorite desire for the
welfare of those that depend on you is no small sacrifice. Follow the
spotless life and teachings of Sri Ramakrishna and look after the
comforts of your family. You do your own duty, and leave the rest to
Him.

Letter from USA: May 2, 1895. Complete Works, 5.78.